Thanks Loraine for sharing. What a great story
Original Message:
Sent: 5/8/2024 2:53:00 AM
From: Loraine Dunn
Subject: RE: Living in Limbic
I have been very impressed by the special education providers in Las Vegas. In 1989 my cousin, who lived in Las Vegas, gave birth to quadruplets. Consistent with research the two boys had the more long term consequences of all 4 11-weeks premature children. One boy is severely hearing impaired. But thanks to the special education staff he functions fine in society and does a good job of listening to and communicating with people in the hearing world. The second little boy has autism and will always need a guardian. Around age 10 or 11 his speech was extremely limited. We took him and his brothers and sisters to a pizza place that had arcade games. We left to go home to the cookout his dad planned. I drug him through the parking lot while he repeatedly yelled the slogan for the pizza place. He was unable to listen to my explanation of why we were not getting a pizza. That was the most speech I heard from him during my visit. I live in Oklahoma so did not see the children frequently. Around age 18 or 19 he greeted me saying "Hello Aunt Loraine, I am very glad to see you." I almost cried. Between age 10 and 19 special education professionals in Las Vegas helped him become a young man who can communicate with the non-disabled world. I will always be grateful for their contribution to my family.
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Loraine Dunn
Provider
Only Toddlers
OK
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Original Message:
Sent: 05-04-2024 12:11 AM
From: Scott Mesh
Subject: Living in Limbic
Hi Lauriann,
So sorry to hear about this really difficult situation. Here's some thoughts that might help.
It sounds like Girl A might be identified as a child with special needs. I contacted the Nevada Dept of Education and confirmed that if this child is evaluated, and found to be eligible for services, that a special education teacher could be provided in the educational setting (a shadow). This girl seems to have needs that are way beyond typical. Thus, if she qualifies for services, and if they can be placed in your location, that this could really help the girl and you. Call Dalila 7027997479 in Las Vegas.
Another posssible help might be Prerna Richards. I recently met her, had some very positive conversations with her, and heard her present this week. She has many suggestions about how to work with children like Girl A, and she has a coaching program. Learn more here. https://togetherwegrow.online/
Finally, if you are having trouble getting parent/guardian consent then I could help with tips as working with parents is my specialty. Contact me if you would like tips on this. I have some free tips on this topic at www.youngchildlearning.com
All the best with this situation and reach out to me if you'd like further thoughts.
Best, Scott
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Original Message:
Sent: 04-27-2024 11:32 AM
From: Lauriann Bradford
Subject: Living in Limbic
I need some help, or at least to vent a bit. I have a family daycare and am in the process of trying to get licensed. I currently care for (and homeschool) my 7 y/o granddaughter, two 5 y/o's, and on alternating days a 4 y/o and 3.9 y/o - all girls. One of my kiddos is a 5.9 y/o girl (Girl A) that I know well as I am friends with one of her grandparents and we have previously camped together with the girls. Well, she practically lives in her limbic system. She will go into an extreme crying or anxiety state at the smallest things (someone disagreed with her, she didn't get the color she wanted, someone said something she didn't like, a tiny bump, etc). I could go into much detail about her infancy, but suffice to say that there was homelessness, parents with generational trauma, and other issues that have probably contributed a great deal to her brain development. She is a sweet girl and I love her to pieces but I have two other children that trigger her daily. As a former EMT-I I have seen people in severe anxiety states when they are shaking violently. She often does this.
The two kids that are the most triggering for girl A (and all the kids):
One is an almost 4 y/o that is very behind in the SE development and I am pretty positive that there is a spectrum issue and proprioception delay there (or SOMETHING). She literally crashes through the day - into kids and their work. The parents had her tested at 2 years and said they were told she was not autistic. She is very bright and knows all her upper and lower case letters, one-to-one counting to at least 20 and more, and is also very sweet and loving, but can switch gears quickly and become very defiant and will not look at you directly (but will covertly check to see if you are watching her when she is going to do something that she knows she shouldn't). She does not follow directions, can't sit still, wanders or pesters during story/circle times and will also completely ignore you and run off which means I cannot take her out of the yard for safety reasons), grab things from the other kiddos, etc.
The other is an extremely bright 5.10 y/o girl who is a bit controlling and cannot stand to be "wrong" - she will shut down and glare at you. Academically she is reading at a beginning first grade level and grasps concepts super quick. But, she can be a bit spiteful and contrary and will do things like tell another child to ask me a question that I have already told her the answer to and not to keep asking, or tell them what they can or can't do.
The bickering and screaming had me at the end of my wits this week, enough to actually sit and write this. With girl A, it's not the normal crying, it is the crying at decibels that would indicate her arm being cut off and trembling/shaking like she just escaped a lion (which her nervous system apparently thinks). Her parents are aware and think she will grow out of it. One parent is Japanese and grew up there. There are extremely high expectations (I was asked if I had a syllabus when she was enrolled and the expectation is that she will excel and being doing nearly first grade work going into kindergarten). The parent is very supportive in many ways, but neither parent believe that she would benefit from delaying kindergarten one more year or that she needs outside support. I have brought up testing for perceptual motor and retained primitive reflexes but they are convinced she is fine. I think that she has a bit of nystagmus, but since I am not a therapist, I can't say. She has real problems with rhyming but is otherwise doing pretty well. Well, the other thing that I am noticing, and not just with her, is giving up when anything is "too hard" and falling apart. I am really concerned that she is going to be miserable in kindergarten.
I have done everything that I know, but I am sure that more experienced teachers have dealt with these and may have other ideas. I have set up a calming corner with special stuffies, Yoga games, a "zen garden" with sand and decorations, a binder of things they can do, posters with reminders to breathe and other suggestions, child safe blends of essential oils that they can use, and we have a puppet named "Glitter Sparkle" that reads them books and role plays on emotional learning (and girl A does use and do many of these things). I have given them "scripts" and songs about personal space, asking for toys/saying you can have it when I'm done, etc.
I am starting to feel that I might need to pivot into reading tutoring or something and that I cannot do this. I only have 5 kids, but all but one seem to have social or neurological issues and I do not have an aide to help when one needs one-on-one. I am barely getting any "lessons" done and by the end of the day, I have no energy for planning and prepping. I go to bed at like 8am and am up at 5; and my weekends are trying to cram in all my personal chores ( I have ducks, chickens, aquariums, cats, and do all the maintenance on our property) as well as doing food planning/shopping/prepping and lesson prep, cleaning, etc. Anyway, I know there are others is way worse situations and feel like I should be able to handle this. I guess I am just worried about how to handle new younger kids( 3-4 y/os) along with the child with the severe SE issues when I lose my two kiddos heading to kindergarten (as well as worrying about how Girl A is going to fare there).
As an aside, I am a nutritional therapy practitioner and have studied functional neurology and health issues for decades. I am currently doing therapy for my granddaughter. I am very familiar with brain development and disorders because all my children had various issues - what used to be called Aspergers, OCD, ODD, severe ADHD, auditory processing, bipolar, etc, and I had to become my own "expert" because the school system here failed us. I have taken classes from well respected doctors and therapists on retained primitive reflexes, perceptual motor development, etc. I have set up a perceptual motor learning lab with just about every ball, swing, balance toy, etc. And I am still at a loss because I am so exhausted and overwhelmed. I can't even imagine how hard it is for others with more than 5 kids and less experience with behavior/brain/development issues. I feel like such a failure right now. Like, I should be doing so much more for these kids because I "know" more and yet... Sorry this is so long. Thanks for any encouragement. I know things will get better, but boy am I looking forward to the end of July when I have 2 weeks "vacation"
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Lauriann
Director
Nana's Nature Nest
NVNana
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