Kasia, below I have listed questions I would be asking myself (and my co-teachers, and likely others at the center) if she were in my classroom. Please know that I expect you have already thought of many of these but...just in case... :-}.....here you are!
1. How new is she to my program (is that a factor? Am I expecting too much from her too soon? Or is this new behavior)?
2. What trauma has this child experienced that leads her to respond in these ways? Am I showing empathy to her?
3. How is my relationship with this child? Does she trust me? How might I build our relationship? Does she need something more from me?
4. What answers would she have if I asked her what would help her with the handwashing situation or with transitions? Could we come up with things to try that SHE thinks of? Does she need more control over herself and/or her day?
5. Who could I have (someone objective) observe over several different activities/days to see things I may not be seeing, such as how I am responding to this child, and if I am treating her differently than the other children, and am I treating her equitably (does she seem to need more patience, more time, or something else that the other children don't seem to need that we might provide to her to make it better for her)?
6. Is there something in my environment that is making things difficult for this child (again an objective observer may be able to see this when I cannot)?
I tend not to see patterns in behavior, and my co-teacher was often able to point things out to me that I couldn't see myself when I was deeply engaged with the children. I wonder if your answers to the above questions will match those of your co-teacher. I hope there is something here that might be helpful to you, Kasia, in this challenging situation. Please keep talking to us as you try different things. Andrea
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Andrea Dekker
Technical Assistant
Quality First Redesign (QIRS)
Tucson AZ
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Original Message:
Sent: 02-20-2019 03:29 PM
From: Kasia Beznoska
Subject: Child Behavior
Hello!
I am writing to get feedback on a child who is currently in my preschool program. She is 5 years old, almost 6, and displays daily behavior that is disruptive to our classroom environment. This child resists when we ask her to wash her hands, use the bathroom, etc... but we only ask at time when other children are- for example when we are washing hands to get ready for morning snack, she says NO and then whines at the end after everyone has washed their hands, saying that she hasn't gotten a chance to yet.
Anytime my co-teacher and I announce that a transition is coming, she resists, screaming, crying, yelling- "time to put books away", "time to go inside", "time to go outside" there is a constant battle and struggle.
We give her a heads up as to when the transitions are coming "in 5 minutes we will be cleaning up"...
We have also worked with her to come up with strategies for when she is upset, ways she can manage herself that is safe for her and the other children in the classroom.
I don't feel supported by her family- she has 2 homes, and her mother hasn't allowed us to talk with her play therapist about anything.
I'm looking for resources my co-teacher and I can read about to better serve this child, while being fair to her and the other children in our care.
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Kasia Beznoska
Director/Head Teacher
Little Swans Preschool
Sanbornton NH
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