Hello,I understand your frustration. I'm in a struggle with two year olds and a playground exit currently myself.
I would suggest a few things:when you google "baby gate alternative" there are a number of fabric or mesh like gate alternatives. You may not be able to get around installing actual hardware to the door frame or area in question.
Also, I have found that the more time we spend outside of the classroom, the less of a fight I get with the door. They are probably trying to communicate that they need a change of scenery or some variety in the only way they know how.
Healthy distractions are also good. So maybe when they are congregating at the gate you take them on a wagon ride or start blowing bubbles and do a fun song or activity. I have found that when children are doing things they know they aren't supposed to, they are more than likely craving more stimulation.I hope this helps!
Oh this is such a challenge, isn't it?One of the BEST ways I have found to keep children away from things is to tell them what they CAN do - rather than what they CANNOT do!
Since young children think in pictures, we need to give them images to help them be successful in following our directions. For example, "You can shake -- over here, like this (demonstrating)."
When we tell them NOT to .... jump on the couch, throw toys, run inside, etc. The only picture in their mind is what we're telling them NOT to do! But, if we say instead: Sit on the couch, jump on the mat, throw balls, build with blocks, run outside, walk inside...then they have a clearer picture of what they CAN do. Therefore, they are more likely to be successful in doing that.i hope that helps! Wishing you well!