I was never taught about consent. I feel like even to this day, consent is something that people feel uncomfortable discussing with children. This is a huge shame because it's something every human being should know. I want my kids to feel empowered. I want to give them the tools to be safe. So, I come to you to help me figure out how to go about doing this. Please give me all the info you're willing to share with me.
Yes--everyone needs to learn about consent. And as educators, and as parents, we teach consent throughout the day, every day, even when we don't label it as such. We teach Sex Education 101 from infancy. We teach this when we change a baby's diaper and explain what we are doing as we change them, "I'm putting diaper cream on you now so you don't get a rash. Closing up the diaper!" We teach this during toilet learning when we give the correct names for genitals. We teach it every time we help a child towards independence and self-help because we give them agency over their own bodies, When we support children to ask another child if they want a hug and that part of the hug is letting go, we're teaching consent. When we teach children to set their own boundaries by using direct language such as, "Don't push me." or "Stop, I'm using that. Don't take it." or "I need more space now." we're teaching them consent. I advocate for teaching children clear and direct language rather than vague language such as "I don't like that." or the dreaded "No, thank you."The flip side is teaching them that their consent doesn't matter, that their sense of self doesn't matter. We teach this when we tell children to hug each other, to hug or kiss us. We teach this as parents when we insist that a child hugs or accepts hugs from other adults. We're teaching one or the other constantly.Some good articles:https://www.talkwithyourkids.org/lets-talk-about/healthy-sex-talk-teaching-kids-consent-ages-1-21.htmlhttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/no-means-no-especially-when-it-comes-from-a-child_b_6616288
We're teaching one or the other constantly.
I think the wrong way is taught way more than the right way. Teaching consent isn't mainstream yet.Thanks for the links!