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  • 1.  I am sending a CBM lesson plan , My creativity and worked wonders with each family with problems

    Posted 10-18-2019 06:19 PM

     

    GOOD TONGUE AND BAD TONGUE

    Main asset or value is                                   Truth

    "Truth never changes and always stays the same."

    Sub Asset:                            Faith, accuracy

    Faith:                                   "Steady faith in you removes doubts."

    Accuracy:                           "Every person has a reason to be born."

    Guided imagery and meditation for ten minutes with tuning in classical music

    Once upon a time, a king wanted to have an exhibition of articles that would make people happy. A lot of articles were brought like flowers, fruits, books, musical instruments, sweets, expensive diamond ornaments, models of expensive palaces, silk robes, and so many more things. The king went through all of them, but his attention was caught by a clay model of a tongue called Good Tongue. The face was a happy, smiling face with a pink tongue well within the mouth. The face and the tongue looked so beautiful. The king sent for the sculptor and said "I am very upset that the exhibit is so cheap, and why did you put it there? How dare you take the exhibit so lightly? Let me know why you put that there in the first place?"

    The sculptor did not get scared with the anger of the king, and he very politely replied, "Sir, all other things give momentary happiness. Good tongue through speech of soft-spoken words of love and sympathy gives happiness forever, gives hope and cheer to the people suffering with grief and fear, and gives strength and confidence to the weak-minded people and even the homeless. Love and sympathy can be expressed only with soft speech and make one feel like a king or god."

    The king was very satisfied with the reply, all his anger gone, and gave him a lot of gold. The same king wanted to have an exhibition of the things that make people unhappy. The hall was filled with sticks, whips, knives, swords, thorny plants, bitter fruits, poison, liquor, barking dogs, cawing crows, and a clay model of big red eyes with a black tongue abusing a poor lean and hungry man called Bad Tongue. The king called the sculptor again. The sculptor explained to the king.

    "My lord, bad tongue can kill others' happiness and joy, destroy their hope and courage, and push them into the pool of misery. It wounds the heart forever, and it is the worst enemy of man. When tongue remains behind the teeth, it helps enjoy the food, can talk effectively, and become useful. Out of boundaries, it cannot function. So are the human beings when they cross their boundaries."

    The king gave him another bag of gold and took him as a minister in his court so that he could be a good ruler.

    Please discuss the above quotes so the children between two and a half and five years can understand and make a statement how they can be used in daily life.

    Discussion for example

    1. Do animals have tongues? Can their tongues talk?
    2. Can animals say how they feel? Can we say how we feel?
    3. Can we talk about good foods and bad foods? Can we choose good foods even if the tongue does not like the taste?
    4. Unless you put the food on the tongue and chew it, taste does not come into the mouth. How can we say we do not like food till we tasted the food?
    5. When you talk, you have to use your tongue. Did you feel great and good when you were praised and some told you they love you?
    Adults in child's life have to be unbiased about various foods to make a child eat healthy foods. Discuss about using tongue for good speech and good food so that the body grows strong and with good personality.

    Choose a song of good values from Zootopia or create your own song like I do.

     

    When you are angry, you are not pretty

    When you are happy, smile is pretty

     

    When you are angry, words are not pretty

    When you are happy, words are lovely

    When you are angry, feelings are ugly

    When you are happy, feelings are holy

     

    When you are angry, body gets hot

    When you are happy, body feels cool

     

    When we are angry, we lose our friends

    When we are happy, we make more friends

     

    Oh, what a good thing to be happy

    Life is filled with love and joy

    Our circle grows

    Happiness is ice cream

    We can share x 2

     

    -Meena Chintapalli

     

    One can create music or rhyme with their creativity or just hum and make a rhyme.

    Declaration: I will use my tongue for good speech and for eating good food.

    This declaration is monitored by parents for the whole week with the following table:

     

     

    Monday

    Tuesday

    Wednesday

    Thursday

    Friday

    Saturday

    Sunday

    1.

    I will speak gently and softly.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    2.

    I will eat good food and not junk.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    3.

    I will try all new foods.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    4.

    I will talk to make people happy.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Parents or caretakers have the responsibility of giving points for each day of the week for following this chart. Tangible rewards are gold stars or smiley faces.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     



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    [Meena Chintapalli, M.D. F.A.A.P
    Founder and C. E.O of A thru Z Pediatric Clinics, retired December, 2018.
    Founder and CEO of The SAI Institute Of Educare
    April, 2002.
    Society For Assistance International
    San Antonio, Texas.[FirstName]
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  • 2.  RE: I am sending a CBM lesson plan , My creativity and worked wonders with each family with problems

    Posted 10-19-2019 08:34 AM

    Meena:

    This is an interesting approach and an interesting story.  It's my belief that the process of self-regulation depends on learning how to feel and react to strong emotions.  Simply pushing away anger doesn't work in the long run.  Teaching children (and ourselves) to recognize uncomfortable feelings, name them, and choose how to act when feeling them is what fosters self-regulation.  Anger is a valid feeling and I wouldn't want to teach children to simply suppress it and that there is something wrong with them for having those feelings.  I want to teach children that when they feel angry they can ask for help, take deep breaths (I like your description of this) and make some choices for how to handle their anger.  The best choice might be to express it--"I'm angry that I can't have that right now.  I really want it!"  My response would then be to let the child know that I understand, that I'm glad they were able to tell me, and that they can have it at another time. Maybe they then need some soothing. Some children feel emotions so strongly that they may need to have a physical outlet in order to go through the feelings and become calm again.  I teach them how to do this safely so they can eventually do it for themselves when they feel upset.  I would never invalidate a child's feelings and teach them that it's better not to feel them.  They only get suppressed and come up more strongly at another time.  

    I wonder how you help children to work out big emotions when they come up.



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    Aren Stone
    Child Development Specialist
    The Early Years Project
    Cambridge, MA
    she/her
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  • 3.  RE: I am sending a CBM lesson plan , My creativity and worked wonders with each family with problems

    Posted 10-19-2019 11:54 AM

    Dear All
    I simply wrote a tool that is essential for self regulation. We need to hard wire during primary wiring time for choice making and self regulation. That is how we really foster effective anger management, which is the cause fro verbal abuse and broken self rejected hearts. Whether you believe it or not, Neuroscience data shows about negative feedback suppression of stress hormones secondary to Oxytocin from nasal breathing techniques that is stimulated, calming from Oxytocin, children can learn and use executive brain only when they are calm. Increased NO from breathing techniques increases cerebral blood flow to all regions and particularly Neo Cortex. 
    This is a scientific proved tool and it is nice to hard wire children from 18 months to adolescence on using tools to become aware of emotions, prevent battles and impulsivity and use tools to redirect from reaction to response. This curriculum is being used fro Social emotional Learning in many preschool curriculum.
    You and I know that young children do not process information through reasoning, but can develop a state from adult redirection  of a forced habit and that becomes a trait of a behavior.
    We are a tipping point to prevent behavior disorders through early hard wiring before the behavior patterns set in by 3 years. At the same time, multi Sensory Integration tools used effectively from birth can prevent adverse effects of all proximal environmental influences.
    I have used the nurture curriculum which I patented as my own intellectual property in October 2003, published my first book in 2004 and is being used at least at some University level in psychology education, as per one Ph.D PSychology student from Vermont.
    We can not turn away from facts of early Brain Development , the role of parenting skills and empowerment. I used this fro 36+ years as Brain, Child development and Behaviors are my favorite topics since 1979 and I grew into the topic as the literature started  evolving from Dr. Barry Brazelton's infant behavior scales and observations . When I started my residency there was no AUTISM diagnosis or ADHD, but minimal Brain dysfunction. Gradually nomenclature started occurring and now we see Autism 1/34 in New Jersey and 1/59 nationally.

    Many Social Environmental and eating practices to life styles have influenced the genetic transcription. That needs to change when the golden opportunity exists 0-3 years or first 1000 days of life through massive education of the public on facts about Neuroplasticity, environment, human values, spiritual parenting, Multi Sensory integration.
    It is the FAMILY/SOCIETY and COMMUNITY RESOURCES that need t work with informed care and holistic health care to accomplish
    " Physical, Psychological, Social-Emotional, Intelelctual and Spiritual Wellness".
    I had given 145 neyuroscience references in my books
    I thank the teachers who give me views and I see how the basic neuroscience needs to reach the public in an effective way to  transform teh current society. I did my share and will do through teaching and giving examples of my 40 years of practicing good medicine.

    Prevent Child Trauma and Abuse and Self rejection is m motive and it was done by me and can be done by communities through education and acceptance of facts.




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    [Meena Chintapalli, M.D. F.A.A.P
    Founder and C. E.O of A thru Z Pediatric Clinics, retired December, 2018.
    Founder and CEO of The SAI Institute Of Educare
    April, 2002.
    Society For Assistance International
    San Antonio, Texas.[FirstName]
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