I reiterate again, there are no short cut techniques and it is fine for putting off sleep training.
As soon as the infant starts crying from maternal separation, it is an indication of social brain connecting and emotions from hippocampus connected.
It is important to teach the infant the value of breaking the anxiety by sleep training.
This critical social emotional learning that will promote life time pathways of self trust, security and accepting interactions in different situations is critical for cognitive skills development and speech.
If infant grows up with insecurity and anxiety learning skills get affected.
First time patents or any patent need to be educated about how brain connects with the world through experience.
A child who is sleep trained is a happy person. South American, Mexican, Asian Indian families do co sleeping.
Well trained parents to nurse , do not co sleep or share bed.
If they do, with a small divider bed, available at a cost of$180/- , in the first 8-10 weeks.
39.1 % have anxiety disorder by 6 years.
Parents can be trained and reassured.
This stage of 6-9 months is good and ideal for sleep training. Failing to do so will lead to life time pathways of social emotional insecurity.
Parents will understand that love means do what is good for infant in the long run. The results of self reliance sprout quickly in a week, releasing the brain with interactive learning , in a state of calm happiness.
A time has come with the latest knowledge of neuro science, fMRI scans with voxel based flow anisometry, we are measuring the thickness of functional nerve fibers, axon length and thickness.
A time has come that all caring for children have to go beyond opinions and learn the Multi Sensory processing, binding and integration.
This is realistic goal to prevent language delay, social emotional learning problems.
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Meena Chintapalli
I had to treat a 14 year old with extreme attachment problems, co sleeping with mom since birth, got abdominal pains at school, lot of absenteeism and IQ was 85 - 90
Mom would not let her child sleep separately. Marriage broke down.
I was a pediatric director for neurodevelopmental inpatient facility .
I treated a depressed 6 year old boy as he was afraid of losing mommy if he went to school and always was in mommy’s bed , never sleep trained
I saw language delay snd social phobia with co sleeping and failing to sleep train by 12 months.
Learn more about sensory processing of experiences
It is 90 % established by 3 years and hard to train after 24 months
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Hello,
Another perspective to co-sleeping is also based on ethnicity - in many countries co-sleeping is done and accepted/expected. But as Educarer, it is our job to understand that and educate parents by providing various resources on Infant safe sleeping. First time parents can also be protective or possessive of their infant and may feel that they are not competent parents if their baby cries or does not sleep well!
It also depends on temperament of the infant, attachment and health condition of the infant - some need physical touch/rocking/cuddling or some sleep on their own.
Yes, patience and consistency in our care and nurture will help the infant sleep soundly gradually.
We can suggest Infant Massage to the parent - research shows that massaging helps in relaxing and calming the infant - better and longer sleep pattern.
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Jagruti Patel
Owner/Provider
Patel Family Child Care
Redlands CA
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Original Message:
Sent: 09-11-2019 01:21 PM
From: Audra Detillier
Subject: infants who co-sleep at home and can't sleep at school
I just want to chime in and add a bit of information to this discussion. First, the terms "co-sleeping" and "bed sharing" are not interchangeable, and it can cause confusion when discussing the topic. Co-sleeping is when baby sleeps in the same room as mom, and this is recommended by the AAP for at least the first six months, but preferably a year, to lower the risk of SIDS. Bed sharing is when a little one actually sleeps in the bed with mom, and while this specific practice is not recommended by the AAP, there are safe ways that it can be done. See here: https://breastfeeding.support/bed-sharing-baby/
I do realize that not all moms meet the safety standards indicated for safe bed sharing, but it is probably more helpful to attempt to teach mothers the safest possible way to do it, rather than expect that in desperation for sleep, it won't happen at all.
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Audra Detillier
Director
Celebration Christian Daycare
Metairie LA
Original Message:
Sent: 09-09-2019 01:11 PM
From: Nina Burrows
Subject: infants who co-sleep at home and can't sleep at school
Hello! We have an infant who hasn't slept yet at school. When the teacher talked to the mom about how the infant sleeps at home, the mom said that she always lies down with her baby to sleep at night and at nap time.
Has anyone had this issue? We have informed the mom about how difficult it is for her baby to sleep at school, but haven't said anything else.
I know there is some increased risk for infants, especially if parents are obese.
Any advice is appreciated!
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Nina Burrows
Preschool Director
FUMC Preschool
Fort Worth TX
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